- Helicopter Parents Wikipedia defines Helicopter Parent as a parent who takes an overprotective or excessive interest in the life of their child. I have a slightly different view of this term. A Helicopter Parent is a parent who believes everything their child says regardless of the age of the child or how ridiculous the statement made. My own children rarely spoke critical remarks about their teachers. They had plenty of nice things to say. If there was a problem I would listen to my child and then decide how to act. One day my primary grade daughter was crying after school because her knee had several Band-Aids on it. Me: What happened? Taylor: ---- called me a name and then he pushed me down. Me: Did you tell your teacher? Taylor: I said I fell. Yesterday he called me a______. Me: You know it was wrong for him to have done that. I will take care of it.
Note to Teacher
Dear Mrs O,
Yesterday my daughter came home crying about an incident that happened on the playground. She reported ---- pushed her down. She also stated ----- called her a ________the day before on the playground. Would you please talk to them?
I got a letter back immediately from the teacher. She apologized and said the matter had been dealt with. I responded with a thank you note, and also asked the two be separated the next year, and they were. Now, at no time did I scream at this teacher because my Precious got hurt on her watch, or her inability to take out her crystal ball and predict what the boy's behavior was going to be. I simply said what was told to me and asked her to look into it. No Helicopter Crash. I used this situation as a learning lesson with my daughter practicing how to act and what to say and do should something like this happen again.
- Having to spend personal funds for work equipment. (By all means read post 19). Every school handles this differently. Teachers don't always know how supplies are going to be handled because this matter can be inconsistent. So the question is, do I buy supplies now and not need them or do I wait to see if I am getting them and when the answer is no, the good supplies are already taken?
- Chronically tardy or absent students. As for being tardy, at what point in the day do you think the teacher will be able to make up what your child missed? If you said zero you are correct. The day continues as planned. Sometimes a tardy student gets ready for school and then sits down and stays there without moving. When asked when she is going to begin, the response is usually, "I don't know what to do." Since the 15 minutes of giving directions have already passed, your child should not be surprised when told to look at her two neighbors and try to figure out what to do.
- Unkind People in general who don't acknowledge or complement other people.
- Mission Statement One of my favorite classes in Educational Leadership was taught by a wonderful superintendent who let it be known how important having a mission statement is. If your custodian can not tell you what the mission statement of your school is when asked, you don't have one. If a para-professional, teacher, student, parent, or anyone affiliated with your school doesn't know, you don't have one. This Super had the mission statement in every classroom, and every teacher had to wear the statement on a button that couldn't be removed until everyone in the class knew the statement. In reading the statements in one system, in my opinion the statements ranged from superior to poor.
- Bus Duty.